Someone recently asked me how I manage with so many special needs children, and with multiples with special needs in particular...I couldn't give her a satisfactory answer and have thought about it for days. I'd like to share with you the end result.


F.R.I.E.N.D.S.H.I.P. S.U.P.P.O.R.T. E.D.U.C.A.T.I.O.N. H.U.M.O.R.

by Andee Dunn (Jan.1996)

 

How do you do it? Well, in no particular order...this is what it takes:

 

FAITH...that God will never give me more than I can handle

RESOURSEFULNESS...to find what my children need

INTELLIGENCE...to comprehend all the medical & technical knowledge I'll be given

ENERGY...for all the many trips to doctors, clinics, hospitals, schools, etc.

NEIGHBORS...and friends that lend a hand now and then

DETERMINATION...that my children will each reach his or her maximum potential

STRENGTH...to continue in the face of depressing odds

HUMOR...to teach my children there's joy in life with special needs

INTUITION...to be able to know the right thing at the right time

PERSEVERANCE...so I can fight for the rights of my children

 

  • SUPPORT...from others that have 'been there' before me

    UNDERSTANDING...for those times when they do what only multiples can do

    PEACE...in knowing that I am doing my absolute best for my children

    PRACTICALITY...so the dishes get done and the laundry too

    OPEN-MINDEDNESS...when looking for the best therapies for each child

    REMINDERS...so no one or nothing is forgotten

    TENDERNESS...that I may not be too harsh when responding to ignorance

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  • ENDURANCE...to get me thru the times when no one knows why it didn't work

    DEDICATION...to repeat thousands of necessary therapies upon my children

    UNCONVENTIONAL...so I can make use of something not usually used that way

    CONFIDENCE...in my abilities to know what my children need

    ACCEPTANCE...so I can thank God everyday for giving me such special children

    TRUST...in myself and those I'm close to

    INSIGHT...to sense what's needed by a child that can't tell me their needs

    ORDER...so there is at least a basic plan each day

    NURTURANCE...giving it and getting it

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  • HUMOR...so I don't forget to laugh when they do something funny

    UNRELENTING JOY...so I can feel it, teach it, and give it

    MILDNESS...for those times when the kids are rivaling siblings

    OPTIMISM...so I can see things from a brighter point of view

    READINESS...for the unexpected

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    Yes, it's a lot! It's what I do, every single day, no weekends off. Our children are always going to need that special care. We provide it directly, or indirectly thru respite providers day in and day out, 365 days a year for the rest of their lives. We also have to help their co-multiple siblings to deal with these things.

    And I wouldn't trade anyone, anything, for what I've got! Six wonderful kids: a surviving twin who will someday be on her own (as her days with intervention & therapies seem to be over); an undiagnosed special daughter who will always live with her weaknesses (but she has many strengths); a totally average daughter (that requires special care due to having five special siblings); a gifted son who will always have trouble seeing (and will miss his brother now & then); his co-quad sister who may never speak as we know it and will always be challenged by her lack of muscle tone; her identical sister who will not only battle with what she shares with her co-quad twin but will also need to cope with her potential loss of sight.

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    Andee Dunn (MOM to Bryana (7/82), CJ (11/85), Allyssa (7/88) and
    Mack (12/91), Rebecca (12/91) & Jessica (12/91) and
    married since 9/79 to SHAWN, the computer genius!)
    E-Mail BooksnDunn@yahoo.com  You can reach all of us there!

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